Earlier today my daughter was getting rather stressed which started to turn into a tantrum. I got down to her level and explained what we were going to do then asked her to take a deep breath and then slowly breathe out; which she did a few times. This calmed her down which was what I wanted to happen.
I didn’t think anything of it until a lady with a pushchair walked up to me and said “how did you do that?” Which confused me as it hadn’t occurred to me that this was odd, the woman must have noticed the look on my face, so she said “your daughter went from having a tantrum to a calm little girl in 2 minutes”.
At this point still thinking I was missing something I just told her what I had done and then walked away. I looked at my best friend who explained that a lot of parents just tend to yell at their kid when their kids have a tantrum or just drag them along screaming behind them. Until that point I’d just thought that the way I dealt with the kids when they were acting up was nothing out of the ordinary, because I don’t see the point of shouting and screaming at the girls as it makes the situation worse as everyone involved just gets even more frustrated.