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Planning a Wedding

  • February 23, 2011 9:29 pm

I have recently got engaged, to my partner who I have been with for 3 years. Whilst insanely happy about this factor I now have the task of organising the big day, this is proving to be a bigger job than I had anticipated and more expensive.

My fiance wants to get married abroad which is by no means cheap as there is a lot of red tape to accompany the marriage should you decide to persue this route in order to ensure that your marriage is legally recognised in the UK. The best place to find out the legal requirements when considering a marriage abroad is to speak to your local travel agent. This avoids having to make an awful lot of rather expensive phone calls or trawling the internet to find all the information. The cost for a wedding abroad is approximately £5,000. This price is including everything except the reception, however in some countries this can be alot higher.

In order to plan the wedding you want without having any last minute dramas the best advice I can give you is to collect prices and ideas that you like and put them all in a scrap book that way all the things are in 1 place thus making it easier to find what you are looking for. Another thing that may help is the following link to a wedding checklist: Printable wedding checklist. Another link that maybe helpful is the following to money saving expert, Money Saving tips for a wedding

Avoiding conflict

  • February 7, 2011 10:26 pm

There are many ways in which you can avoid or control conflict between yourself and your partner. Keeping a controlled and happy environment can help keep a healthy relationship when in an argument calm yourself first.

VOICE: Keep your voice steady and calm: an even tone and pitch. speak gently,slowly,clearly and carefully.

FACE: Show that you are listening and attentive: use nods to show you are following. Try to relax your facial muscles,and convey openness and empathy.

EYES: Make eye contact but avoid constant eye contact that may be perceived as threatening.

POSITION: Avoid eyeball to eyeball position or positions were you may be higher up than the other person be careful not to invade personal body space.

These tips can help you calm yourself during conflict and avoid things getting any worse and make it easier for you an your patner to be able to work things out in a positive and calm environment.

Relationship Drama

  • December 27, 2010 12:09 pm

Lately me and my partner have been going through a rough patch, there are a number of factors that have led to this:

  • Stress
  • Health Problems
  • Lack of communication

…and the list goes on.
The question is what do you do about it? Well in my case me and my partner decided to sit down and try to talk things through. Lack of communication solved, however due to the fact that we are talking more unfortunately this has led to another problem; basically because of the fact that I have always tried to be open yet my partner doesn’t remember me telling him stuff because he has been drinking most nights, he then gets angry and claims that I haven’t told him this until now. Before the alarm bells start ringing my partner is not an alcoholic, he jusy enjoys a beer after work.

Because talking about stuff didn’t seem to be working I tried a different approach focusing on 1 problem at a time. We talked about the problem and then decided what we were going to do about it. This seems to be working pretty well.

One of the issues that we are currently dealing with is the fact that 1 of my male friends made a pass at me one night after we had been out drinking. I told him that we were friends and that was all. We both agreed that it was a mistake that shouldn’t have happened and have both moved on from it. However when I spoke to my partner about it; let’s just say it didn’t go down too well. He has banned this friend from the house and has made me promise that I will not go back to this guy’s house, which is fine but when I get snide comments when I get home it really bothers me because I haven’t cheated and why should I stop being friends with someone just because they made a mistake?

Coil- Nightmare

  • February 28, 2010 7:36 pm

In attempt to stop my hellish periods, which are that bad I end up having to use maternity pads to deal with them, the doctors decided to try the Mirena Coil. I figured it was worth a try given I’ve tried the pill and the implant, neither of which worked.

So I went to the appointment went through all the routine questions not a problem, it was after that the problems started. With no warning what so ever the doctor performed a pelvic exam which had me climbing the walls. She then tried to fit the coil, unfortunately what should have been a straight forward procedure was extremely painful, unsurprisingly my cervix went into spasm and the whole thing had to be abandoned.

I had to book another appointment, this time I was told to take 6mg of Diazepam. So I turned up for the appointment, went through the same routine as the 1st attempt only this time after 6 attempts they finally managed to get the bloody thing in.

Since then it’s all gone downhill, I feel like crap, I’ve had bleeding heavier than my usual period; which I didn’t think was possible. To add insult to injury I found out that I’ve got a few torn ligaments in my pelvis and I have pelvic Inflammatory Disease from the damn thing. So all in all not a happy bunny.

For more information about the coil or PID see these websites:
Pelvic Inflammatory Disease
Mirena Coil

Weight Loss

  • February 14, 2010 8:02 pm

Virtually every woman claims that she wants to lose weight, so those that decide to do something about it there’s then the dilemma about which diet to try, well STOP right there! These diets are often very expensive and don’t actually work.

Diet pills only actually make you lose water because the majority of them contain a diuretic (it makes you pee alot). Some of them can interfere with contraceptives such as the pill. Add into the equation that diet pills are pretty expensive too, for example a packet of alli costs approximately £32.95 for 42 tablets. You have to take 1 3 times a day so a packet of 42 will last 14 days so you end up spending approximately £70 a month.

So here is a link to a website that I found helpful beauty secrets for you. The information on this site is useful provided that you don’t pay attention to the adverts on the page.

Sexercise – the new way to get in shape?

  • January 1, 2010 6:04 pm

The NHS has some new advice for people struggling to schedule a fitness routine into their daily lives – a workout between the sheets. According to the NHS Direct website, “sexercise” can lower the risk of heart attacks and helps people live longer. Endorphins released during orgasm stimulate immune system cells, which also helps target illnesses like cancer, as well as wrinkles, it states.

The advice, published under the headline “Get more than zeds in bed”, is one of several sexual health-related articles to be found on the NHS Direct website. Sex with a little energy and imagination provides a workout worthy of an athlete, the article says. “If you’re worried about wrinkles – orgasms even help prevent frown lines from deepening forget about jogging round the block or struggling with sit-ups. Sex uses every muscle group, gets the heart and lungs working hard, and burns about 300 calories an hour.”

The advice suggests “regular romps this winter” could lead to a better body and a younger look. Increased production of endorphins “will make your hair shine and your skin smooth,” it adds. “If you’re worried about wrinkles – orgasms even help prevent frown lines from deepening.” The article goes on to say that orgasms release “painkillers” into the bloodstream, which helping keep mild illnesses like colds and aches and pains at bay.

The production of extra oestrogen and testosterone hormones “will keep your bones and muscles healthy, leaving you feeling fabulous inside and out”. I don’t know about anyone else but to me this sounds like another fad but we’ll see as the saying goes only time will tell.

Younger Wife for Marital Bliss?

  • January 1, 2010 5:59 pm

According to UK experts from Bath University the secret to a happy marriage for men is choosing a wife who is smarter and at least five years younger than you. They claim that they are more likely to go the distance, particularly if neither has been divorced in the past. The research involved studying interviews of more than 1,500 couples who were married or in a serious relationship then 5 years later they followed up 1,000 of the couples to see which had lasted

They found that couples where the woman was younger were three times more likely to go the distance and that couples where only one of them had been divorced before were the least stable. Having said this society has started seeing factors such as age as less important when choosing a partner. In the past it was thought that the man had to be older in order to provide for his family. So basically it would seem that the facts havent really changed just the reasoning that accompanies them.

Who said romance was dead?

  • February 23, 2008 9:49 am

Valentine’s Day a day for being really romantic?
Why wait until February to be romantic? Me and my partner make small gestures all year for example if I’m relaxing in the bath sometimes Andy will bring me a hot chocolate, the gestures don’t have to be big it’s just about doing small things, I’m not saying that big gestures aren’t good but the small ones mean just as much.

Here a few ideas:

  • Run your partner a bath
  • Cook your partner’s favourite meal
  • Let partner have a lie in while you sort out the child
  • Snuggle up with your partner and a DVD

    • Hope these give you some ideas; as I know it can be hard keeping your love life on track when you have a child.

Getting your relationship back on track

  • January 7, 2008 9:56 pm

Having a baby can put strain on your relationship; the key to maintaining your relationship is communication, but also taking time out to do something together, even if it’s just watching a dvd or having noisy monkey sex.